What Matter Has Your Focus?

What matter has your focus?

Is there something you are striving for, accepting of, in discord with, excited about, envisioning? What? Here’s a gentle reminder: Realize or remember that your focus on a matter is creating/manifesting an outcome. Seems so simple doesn’t it? Take a moment to get clear with yourself about how you are embracing the matter.

Now that you’ve identified what that may be, are you feeling discontent, tired of the same ol’ way you handle matters, ready to feel confident with how you show up and not beat yourself up because somehow you’ve convinced yourself that you were a total jerk? Or you’ve procrastinated once again in starting that heartfelt desire to do that very thing you don’t feel equipped to do. Is there a better way? What is here for you?

Consider this statement made by, Bill Carmody, PCC, “Inclusiveness starts with empathy.” He shared this when responding to a question in our virtual meeting with coaches from around the world.

When will you start being inclusive to yourself? Including your ideas as something you want to get to the heart of the matter about? When you consider a matter, imagine including empathy. Notice your own empathy to yourself first. Self evaluations work wonders and so does someone else working with you to help you see your blindspots. Once you start to develop empathy for yourself, showing up in a loving way towards yourself, it is then, in your own personal development that you will first know what that is and your focus will become one that wants to help others be with empathy towards themselves for the sake of others doing the same. Imagine the exponential impact just you can make?

What is here for you right now as you read this? Answer that for yourself. How is it that you are showing up wherever you are?

Only you can come up with what is right for you. When you develop into a developmental stage that allows you to be confident within yourself, not falsely confident, you will be able to show up in that manner and will be more engaged differently encouraging others to show up in this same way.

The facade that has equipped you with the “fake it until you make it” outcomes in your life has not acknowledged the internal dialogue that robs you of your genuine confidence. Why can’t you be as you are or speak out what matters to you? Another question to come to terms with.

If that describes you, what are you ready to be vulnerable with or about, and how will you embrace the truth of your most-incredible self?

How long will you wait to embrace yourself confidently, validate your own truth, grasp the reality of who you really are, and start the trend of meeting others in that way as well?

There is no need to hide something, rather, bring it out as a curiosity. Just take for a moment the matter, and imagine brining it forth in word. What would you do differently? Notice the creativity that comes forth. The change that happens.

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How Long Will You Wait?

When an idea comes to you, what do you do with it? Especially when the idea does not leave. Your desire grows stronger. Your energy around it becomes focused on it. You find yourself talking about it all the time. Tossing and turning in bed about it. And what? What are you doing about it? How are you being?

When you have an idea like this, it’s time to share it with someone that will help you sort out what is important to you about it. Gain clarity on actions to take to develop it or share it with someone that will help you make the idea come to fruition. These ideas are meant for the greater good and you will be equipped for the call. Trust and have faith that these ideas are there for a purpose and designed especially for you to engage in. You’re the one! You can and you will be able to accomplish this endeavor, one step at a time.

Animate Life Coaching is built on the foundation of helping people get to the heart of the matter. When will you start?

What Gets Me High!

Witnessing someone discover their core truths gets me high! It’s as if I’ve just witnessed a tender rose bud blossom in the warmth of sunlight right before my very eyes. Their tender fragrance is fresh and new. There is freedom to move and change. There is a burning desire to act on what they are passionate about.

Helping people get to the core of what they want and take action is why I love to coach. It’s not easy to get to the core of what matters when we have many aspects of our lives tugging at us. But when you make commitments in alignment with your values, your aliveness shines.

In anticipation of, during and after a coaching session, I am higher than a kite! Holding a loving and compassionate space for someone to reveal their most-intimate ideas and thoughts is sacred space! There is a responsibility that requires safety and love. What is most astounding is the love at the core revealed. How beautiful, how precious!

Coaching sessions are not always pretty or do they take a turn you thought it might. But what is most rewarding is the shift. When the client shifts their focus on the truth of what it is they really want. It’s as if they grasp that very thing that they have grappled with for so long! Change starts in that very moment and gives life to a new idea.

Transformation of our being. Clients revealing their core and what fascinates me most is their desire to be. To be what their core is calling them to do. Being and doing. Humans. High on life! Love.

Empowered and Directed

What we’ve learned needs to be applied to what we attempt. ~Susan Husa

When we are consciously aware of how we are being empowered and directed; what we do, according to our values, will determine significant outcomes.

Agony – you know what I’m talking about. The feeling that something we are striving to do, whether making sense of something, physically trying to accomplish something, or honoring our soul. Examine your values in these moments. What are you made up of?

When I started out with the word agony, it seemed so loud. Well, it is! Think about how every day there is something that causes you agony. However you define agony or a feeling similar in that way; hardship. What you are feeling is a struggle. Stop yourself and get in tune with that! What is driving you to feel such a way?

At one time or another I have read, “Do something hard every day.” Hmm, “Okay!” “Wait, did I just agree with that!?” “Don’t I already do something hard every day without even trying!?” Perhaps everything I read should be examined on whether or not I want to do that! “Did the author of those words mean that somehow that was going to help me?” I know I have since taken those words to be helpful in that if I am going to learn something new, the effort I make to accomplish it will seem hard.

By now you have probably played out many scenarios in your mind that you’ve experienced hardship. What came out of your hardship for you? Did you improve something for yourself, or someone else? Did it cause destruction for you or others? Either case, what did you learn, and how will you apply that lesson to accomplish something else, or avoid destruction once again? Hardship will promote something, and when you pay attention to how it affects you, notice how your whole being is affected. You mind, body, and soul.

What are you doing to honor your soul? Your whole being? To express your joyful self? Or any emotion of self? Have you given in to activities, distractions or other’s ideals that lead you astray? Perhaps you’ve stopped honoring the core of who you are in an effort to support or get sucked in to the ideas of those around you. Take some time for yourself to identify the areas of your life that are not quite right for you, and start creating pathways to explore those new ideas. Move in the direction that stimulates your core desires and notice the joy that consumes you. Notice the people you are with. How are you encouraging each other and embracing each other to overcome hardship? Are you with complainers? Or are you with focused people living a life with purpose. Purpose stemming from the very core of who they uniquely are?

God works in mysterious ways to get our full attention on Him. When you consciously be aware of Him leading and guiding you, you will unravel all the hurts, habits and hang-ups and start living the way in which he intended for you in the first place. Living empowered and directed by Holy Spirit is a life filled with purpose. And every emotion will be experienced.

Response to COVID 19

Meditation in a time of pandemic. No edits. March 18, 2020

As an adult it may be best for us to just go back and read the children’s books. After all, aren’t those the books that teach the fundamentals? How soon we get caught up in the ideas of others and drown in them.

Core essence — that’s the bottom line. You were created with all you ever needed to be. Until the eyes were opened to all the possibilities did you realize then, so many became the hardship. Then the will to surrender grounded you in the splendor.

Ecstacy – it’s there. Wisdom. Loving the ability through that. The ability to make choices that resonate with me! How can I be love when I’m subjected to the opposite!? I can’t! I can! By standing in my authority! My authority is from my Author! An author is one who writes a story.

God’s story is the one I am in. He’s refining me in many ways. So thankful! Abundance. Refinement. Glory. Honor. Mercy. Love. Holy Spirit. Engaged fully. For now. This too shall pass. Until my heart aligns. So easy to escape. So easy to hold fast.

Steady – that’s what I want! Back to the place I came from. Secure. Solid. Void. Void of anything that tried to betray me. Thank you!

Perhaps I chose. Perhaps I wanted to give my hand at saving too!? What a thought. And with that, now that I’ve seen the destruction, felt it in my body and released it to the Author. His Authority reigns forever. The grasp is ever so present and glorious.

Am I Blind?

“Please let me know!” In the book, What Did Jesus Ask?, the question Jesus asks in Luke 6:30, “Can the blind lead the blind?” reveals, yes. To me, as a follower of Christ, my responsibility is to love others as Christ loves me, ultimately pointing others to Him. Especially, as a follower of Christ and in any leadership position.

Are you a leader? We all are, and we all have a leader and our behaviors and attitudes point directly to how well we know our leader. Who do you follow? Do you have more than one leader? These are the questions that lead to our wholeness. Who is your leader? When we examine our hearts and we truly see ourselves in who God says we are and who you say your Leader is, we realize just how precious these truths are.

Eugene Cho, Senior pastor of Quest Church in Seattle, covers this question in the book I mentioned. She warns us of those in power and authority, about how it is so critical for us to analyze our leadership in where it is that we are leading people to. Are we leading them to Jesus that proclaims, “I am the way, the truth and the life.”? As a leader in my home, in my community, and on this planet, constructive criticism is welcomed for it helps me better lead those whom are witnesses to my attitude and behavior. Being humbly curious always, rather than defensive. For without your encouragement, leading blindly is not where my heart is. In this very exchange, grace and truth stem from a most loving place. Just as Jesus once asked, “Can the blind lead the blind?” The answer is in the question. Out of curiosity, what have you discovered by asking yourself the question?

Full Expression of Love

6 Human Needs
6 Human Needs

I believe when you are being your unique and full expression of you, it encourages others to do the same.  Imagine a place where you are fully acceptable.  There is harmony and encouragement, certainty and safety, variety and significance, connection and love, growth, and contribution.  A friend of mine shared a theory with me, that humans have six needs.  As I wrote them down on an electronic sticky note, I defined what each means to me.  If you define them for yourself, your descriptions may be different than mine. How beautiful a place when we get curious about each other’s definitions and live lovingly.

When we get to the identity of our core, we find who we “say” we are.  With that clarity, our true desires unfold like a rose opening itself up in the sun. Its fragrance is blissful on a warm sunny day if you happen to be downwind.  Or, you need to lean over and place your nose up-close and personal.  By exploring your own identity, you may produce a metaphor of what fragrance you are.

A rose opening itself up in the sun.
A rose opening itself up in the sun

Diving into your own identity is a remarkable experience.  Learning to value who I am, get curious about other people’s identity, and be the person I was created to be is freedom. Freedom prevails when I am living out my full expression of love.  And living out my full expression of love hopefully encourages you to do the same!  What is “living out your full expression of love” like for you?

Sensitivity and Empathy

To reflect our feelings when with others.
From one state to the other.

I crawled through the podcast and into her story as if it were my own. How she described her pain and feelings of sensitivity was so familiar. Her words depicted the pain my body feels at times. And over the years I am thankful for the clarity regarding my type and I continued to listen as I was curious about how she navigates our culture.

Stumbling upon this podcast seemed like such a fluke. Yet hearing her story, which described and articulated similar experiences for me was comforting. Years ago I was all too familiar with being told, “Stop being so sensitive!” These statements crushed my spirit in a way I didn’t like. The reaction from others prompted me to seek out answers to figure out how I could fit in somehow without causing such (what felt like) a volatile reaction. I had to discover what it was that caused such a reaction in people and how I could change in an effort to not bother people so much. I wondered how could I just be me and be respected? After years of study, understanding who I am helped me overcome and answer those questions. My actions of discovery brought awareness and, wait for it….sensitivity, around my reaction to circumstances, in an effort to respect those around me.

Since navigating life for over half a century, looking back, the obvious is that I am sensitive. Sometimes empathy stimulates signals from my core to every nerve causing me physical pain. Probably similar to how a slug may feel if you cover it in salt. What I changed is my reaction to my feelings. I am able to recognize the feelings, label them and act accordingly. Perhaps if news is overwhelming I may remove myself from the room or conversation. And in other situations I will simply notice. Living with this personality type has its challenges yet we can be thankful for discernment and our ability to utilize these gifts to help others. Encouragement is one of the outcomes.

By the act of naming our feelings, we can choose to proactively convert the energy constructively outward. Perhaps the feeling is, fearful. When I am fearful, I am thankful for the wisdom to know. In the very moment, in some form or another, an entity is feeding us. Notice what entity is feeding you. (Reading this article is feeding you!) When you have clarity be aware of your choice. (Are you about to move on from this post and delete it? Or are you intrigued in finding out more about how you may be able to change similar experiences?) Your choice will determine your outcome (Input: output). Consider this: When we are aware of the food we are ingesting, or are allowing to be ingested (I am referring to the information you are allowing to enter into your mind) your precious cells are reacting. What environment are your cells being subjected to? Choose a loving, constructive entity. In that very moment hold fast to the current that rushes from the same entity that feeds the stars which hold the elements essential for your existence. The opposite could be a destructive entity leaving you feeling defeated or others distraught. Loving and constructive entities help you produce good fruit.

As I write this, I think about how we are all in circumstances beyond our control. In this very moment my heart and body feel heavy. (Exactly what I am talking about.) Move: label the feeling; Act: articulate constructive thought; Participate: inward or outward. Make a conscious effort to connect with:

Painted Love
Daughter’s artwork when learning how to create digitally in elementary school.

In that very moment of connecting with Love I couldn’t resist the thought of all of us in some sort of war zone. And you and I know that war zone can be defined in many ways. However mild or severe, defined by you, …when you are subjected to this reality, make it your objective to hold fast to comfort and guidance. Surrender to that power. Sink into the feeling of surrender and then rise with the strength to carry on. Within that very moment it took me to type these words, I was able to experience dread when thinking of others in a war zone and then strength to fulfill my mission. May all your feats be blessed with love!

Here’s the podcast that describes feelings and gives insight to words like cornerstone, morning star and names of God that have shaped Holley Gerth’s wisdom. About 12 minutes into the podcast is where the story unfolds about how she overcame her challenges which reflect some similarities for me.


Perhaps you have some similar experiences. Consider leaving a reply in an effort to share your story for the sake of helping others relate in an effort to share ideas of how you overcame a situation.

My Wish by Rascall Flatts

E V E R Y time I hear this song I just melt thinking of my children! What a beautiful song…..

My Wish – Rascal Flatts (Lyrics On Screen) Published on May 20, 2014″My wish” by Rascal Flatts

I hope that the days come easy and the moments pass slow,
And each road leads you where you want to go,
And if you’re faced with a choice, and you have to choose,
I hope you choose the one that means the most to you.
And if one door opens to another door closed,
I hope you keep on walkin’ till you find the window,
If it’s cold outside, show the world the warmth of your smile,

But more than anything, more than anything,
My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to,
Your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small,
You never need to carry more than you can hold,
And while you’re out there getting where you’re getting to,
I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too,
Yeah, this, is my wish.

I hope you never look back, but ya never forget,
All the ones who love you, in the place you left,
I hope you always forgive, and you never regret,
And you help somebody every chance you get,
Oh, you find God’s grace, in every mistake,
And you always give more than you take.

But more than anything, yeah, and more than anything,
My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to,
Your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small,
You never need to carry more than you can hold,
And while you’re out there getting where you’re getting to,
I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too,
Yeah, this, is my wish.

My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to,
Your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small,
You never need to carry more than you can hold,
And while you’re out there getting where you’re getting to,
I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too,
Yeah, this, is my wish.

This is my wish
I hope you know somebody loves you
May all your dreams stay big
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Hey Little One – To my sister, with love.

Sun's reflection on the sea while seagulls embrace the surf.

A poem about God’s love for His precious children.

Hey, little one, it’s okay to cry, I’m sensitive to you, and your weary precious mind. For days gone by release, and today embrace the love, to tether all your heart, to your greatest triumph yet. No longer slave to sin, and mercy flows around, protecting once again, your precious soul within. Now never do you part, to let your heart have fear, no longer in your angst, for love is always here. Now go in peace to serve, as once again you know, the hold I have on you, for your dearest day is near. Behold, of my commands, and keep them in your heart, to place my love in you, and to share with all of you. No sin can harm you now, for you have the right to know, that every where you go, we never ever part. I’ll hold your hand for now, and always and forever, be close to me I pray, that you choose when I deliver. Go forth in love and joy. Replenish all you need, to grow in love to nurture, and know you’ll always win, in the race I have you in. You know the gate is narrow, I’ve told you long ago, so take my hand, I’ll guide you, in the love you want to know. ~Susan Husa