Sensitivity and Empathy

To reflect our feelings when with others.
From one state to the other.

I crawled through the podcast and into her story as if it were my own. How she described her pain and feelings of sensitivity was so familiar. Her words depicted the pain my body feels at times. And over the years I am thankful for the clarity regarding my type and I continued to listen as I was curious about how she navigates our culture.

Stumbling upon this podcast seemed like such a fluke. Yet hearing her story, which described and articulated similar experiences for me was comforting. Years ago I was all too familiar with being told, “Stop being so sensitive!” These statements crushed my spirit in a way I didn’t like. The reaction from others prompted me to seek out answers to figure out how I could fit in somehow without causing such (what felt like) a volatile reaction. I had to discover what it was that caused such a reaction in people and how I could change in an effort to not bother people so much. I wondered how could I just be me and be respected? After years of study, understanding who I am helped me overcome and answer those questions. My actions of discovery brought awareness and, wait for it….sensitivity, around my reaction to circumstances, in an effort to respect those around me.

Since navigating life for over half a century, looking back, the obvious is that I am sensitive. Sometimes empathy stimulates signals from my core to every nerve causing me physical pain. Probably similar to how a slug may feel if you cover it in salt. What I changed is my reaction to my feelings. I am able to recognize the feelings, label them and act accordingly. Perhaps if news is overwhelming I may remove myself from the room or conversation. And in other situations I will simply notice. Living with this personality type has its challenges yet we can be thankful for discernment and our ability to utilize these gifts to help others. Encouragement is one of the outcomes.

By the act of naming our feelings, we can choose to proactively convert the energy constructively outward. Perhaps the feeling is, fearful. When I am fearful, I am thankful for the wisdom to know. In the very moment, in some form or another, an entity is feeding us. Notice what entity is feeding you. (Reading this article is feeding you!) When you have clarity be aware of your choice. (Are you about to move on from this post and delete it? Or are you intrigued in finding out more about how you may be able to change similar experiences?) Your choice will determine your outcome (Input: output). Consider this: When we are aware of the food we are ingesting, or are allowing to be ingested (I am referring to the information you are allowing to enter into your mind) your precious cells are reacting. What environment are your cells being subjected to? Choose a loving, constructive entity. In that very moment hold fast to the current that rushes from the same entity that feeds the stars which hold the elements essential for your existence. The opposite could be a destructive entity leaving you feeling defeated or others distraught. Loving and constructive entities help you produce good fruit.

As I write this, I think about how we are all in circumstances beyond our control. In this very moment my heart and body feel heavy. (Exactly what I am talking about.) Move: label the feeling; Act: articulate constructive thought; Participate: inward or outward. Make a conscious effort to connect with:

Painted Love
Daughter’s artwork when learning how to create digitally in elementary school.

In that very moment of connecting with Love I couldn’t resist the thought of all of us in some sort of war zone. And you and I know that war zone can be defined in many ways. However mild or severe, defined by you, …when you are subjected to this reality, make it your objective to hold fast to comfort and guidance. Surrender to that power. Sink into the feeling of surrender and then rise with the strength to carry on. Within that very moment it took me to type these words, I was able to experience dread when thinking of others in a war zone and then strength to fulfill my mission. May all your feats be blessed with love!

Here’s the podcast that describes feelings and gives insight to words like cornerstone, morning star and names of God that have shaped Holley Gerth’s wisdom. About 12 minutes into the podcast is where the story unfolds about how she overcame her challenges which reflect some similarities for me.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/graceologie-40-holley-gerth/id1393906123?i=1000440010221

Perhaps you have some similar experiences. Consider leaving a reply in an effort to share your story for the sake of helping others relate in an effort to share ideas of how you overcame a situation.

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My Wish by Rascall Flatts

E V E R Y time I hear this song I just melt thinking of my children! What a beautiful song…..

My Wish – Rascal Flatts (Lyrics On Screen) Published on May 20, 2014″My wish” by Rascal Flatts

Lyrics:
I hope that the days come easy and the moments pass slow,
And each road leads you where you want to go,
And if you’re faced with a choice, and you have to choose,
I hope you choose the one that means the most to you.
And if one door opens to another door closed,
I hope you keep on walkin’ till you find the window,
If it’s cold outside, show the world the warmth of your smile,

But more than anything, more than anything,
My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to,
Your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small,
You never need to carry more than you can hold,
And while you’re out there getting where you’re getting to,
I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too,
Yeah, this, is my wish.

I hope you never look back, but ya never forget,
All the ones who love you, in the place you left,
I hope you always forgive, and you never regret,
And you help somebody every chance you get,
Oh, you find God’s grace, in every mistake,
And you always give more than you take.

But more than anything, yeah, and more than anything,
My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to,
Your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small,
You never need to carry more than you can hold,
And while you’re out there getting where you’re getting to,
I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too,
Yeah, this, is my wish.

My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to,
Your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small,
You never need to carry more than you can hold,
And while you’re out there getting where you’re getting to,
I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too,
Yeah, this, is my wish.

This is my wish
I hope you know somebody loves you
May all your dreams stay big
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Hey Little One – To my sister, with love.

Sun's reflection on the sea while seagulls embrace the surf.
Renewal

A poem about God’s love for His precious children.

Hey, little one, it’s okay to cry, I’m sensitive to you, and your weary precious mind. For days gone by release, and today embrace the love, to tether all your heart, to your greatest triumph yet. No longer slave to sin, and mercy flows around, protecting once again, your precious soul within. Now never do you part, to let your heart have fear, no longer in your angst, for love is always here. Now go in peace to serve, as once again you know, the hold I have on you, for your dearest day is near. Behold, of my commands, and keep them in your heart, to place my love in you, and to share with all of you. No sin can harm you now, for you have the right to know, that every where you go, we never ever part. I’ll hold your hand for now, and always and forever, be close to me I pray, that you choose when I deliver. Go forth in love and joy. Replenish all you need, to grow in love to nurture, and know you’ll always win, in the race I have you in. You know the gate is narrow, I’ve told you long ago, so take my hand, I’ll guide you, in the love you want to know. ~Susan Husa


People Want to Experience Your Love.

Create Joy, Give Joy

Sometimes we are embarrassed about things we’ve done.  Sometimes the thought of processing hard times gone by to heal our hurts is almost hardly bearable.  I can relate to those kinds of feelings.  The idea that someone isolates in those thoughts, tugs on my heart dearly. It is so easy for us to get caught up in what we did instead of what our heart wants to do: Give Love.

When we honor the love we feel in our heart, we will do things out of love. When we do things out of love, we can share so much with others that are sometimes feeling desperate for someone to show them love. What do you suppose keeps us from expressing that authentic love? The key, I believe, to unlocking those answers is to ask, “Why?”

Challenge yourself to step out in love. What does that mean for you? Does that give you more time with your family? Is there something you are afraid of? Why are you afraid? If you do step out, what will that look like? Imagine what outcome you are looking for. Is it out of love? Who do you imagine the recipient being? What can you do, to prove to yourself, that your actions could be life-changing for someone else? Or even you!?

People want to experience your love. Move forward with only the idea in your mind, that people want to experience your love. Have faith that your idea matters. Do it, because it is from your heart. Have no fear of rejection. Rejection of love is the recipient’s work. Meditate on that. Also, recognize your attitude when you attempt to give love. Is your love pure? I always like to check my attitude with the Fruit of the Spirit: Galatians 5:22 (NLT) Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Be transformed! Read God’s Word; The Holy Bible. Worship God!  Choosing “holy” gives your reverence to God!  Your actions become about worshipping only Him!  If we worship only God, it seems our actions would only be of love!

Precious are those that serve in the name of Jesus!

Honor Your Feelings

Love

Your feelings can help you navigate boundaries. When you are feeling violated, your throat may get tight and may be signaling to you of a boundary issue. Spend time searching for answers about your feelings. Find answers when you are unsure of what to do. This is my discovery of a situation.

I turned to friends asking them about my character. I searched in my Bible, read a book by Dr. John Townsend and Dr. Henry Cloud. Boundaries: Updated and Expanded Edition. One idea struck me of how the Bible commands us to humble ourselves. They write that “If you do what you are able – confess, believe, and ask for help – God will do what you are unable to do – bring about change. (1 John 1:9; James 4:7-10; Matt.5:3, 6).”

My heart has been heavy with a situation I know needs changed. After a few days of processing how to deal with this situation, I heard the words in my mind, “Die to sin.” Initially I was thinking it related to jealousy. That didn’t feel quite right but it was the only thing I could come up with at the time that made sense. Later, after much more reading about boundaries I came up with my truth that I wasn’t jealous; I had exercised poor boundaries. When we are not equipping ourselves with knowledge around how to navigate this world, we fail ourselves and others. Natural instincts and learned behavior regarding boundaries can only take you so far in your growth and maturity for Christ-like character and holy living.

I am rejecting a place where I feel so much animosity. I am searching to find out how to protect myself in these kinds of experiences. I want to learn more about my character development. I acknowledge my intentions are not to hurt. And I am praying that God will reveal to me what I need to know and do, so that I honor my values. I do not want to hurt anyone and somehow I feel like I am. We can’t expect our character or other’s to be like Christ’s but we can strive for it to be, forgiving ourselves and others of our shortfalls.

Much of what I am reading relates to what I am experiencing. I am uncomfortable thinking that I was judging someone and confirm that it is rather discernment and is so crucial to our well-being so that we are not lead to sin. What I discovered in 2 Peter 3:18 “….they lure back those into sin, those who have barely escaped from a lifestyle of deception.” This struck a chord with me. As I strive to be without sin, I need to have places I am learning in to be nurturing. We can all be sinners and you can choose to be with groups that are respectful. If they are not, it is okay to leave.

I discovered that in this environment I was feeling enmity. That was the first word that came to mind. I looked it up and enmity which in the dictionary I used says it is a feeling or condition of hostility; hatred; ill will; animosity; antagonism. Animosity is what actually describes how I was feeling in this situation. Animosity is a feeling of strong dislike, ill will, or enmity that tends to display itself in action: a deep-seated animosity between two sisters; animosity against one’s neighbor.”

Well, I don’t want to have that feeling or do I like that feeling! So what I learned in boundaries is that you have to remove yourself from it. I was not comfortable talking with this person. I don’t trust them and I fear that they would try and twist my truth or tell me they are sorry and continue with the behavior. I had removed myself for a few years in this situation and felt discord thinking I would never go back.

I went back. When I did, I felt the same way again. 2 Peter 2 also tells us that you are a slave to whatever controls you. I won’t be controlled by feelings that leave me distraught. I can’t change the person causing me this pain, so I leave. I feel like I have the skills now to carry forward in this type of situation. This is where one can feel joy except in this case, I don’t yet because I have another lesson to learn. I am joyful in that I have learned how to confront the issue next time I have this experience with someone. But in this situation I have no trust. That is the part that I need God to reveal to me next. I now need to know how to leave someone without ever feeling guilty because I didn’t give them a chance to hear how and why what they did caused me animosity. But….I do believe in my heart that they do know. And I will never be sure. But I do know that God will reveal to me what I need to do. Forgiveness has always been there and much love for this person. I just can’t take this hardship any more. There were many times they crossed boundaries. Had I had the skills and knowledge to exercise my boundaries in a constructive way I would have. But frankly, I felt like I was already up against a defiant person.

So then I go on to read 2 Peter 2 and it says that when we “get tangled up and enslaved by sin again, we are worse off than before. It would be better to have never known the way to righteousness than to know it and then reject the command they were given to live a holy life. They prove the proof of this proverb, “A dog returns to its vomit. Proverbs 26:11 and another says, “A washed pig returns to the mud.” I was feeling the same feelings over again. I could not handle it! So the best thing for me to do was to leave. Clearly things had not changed.

I encourage all of us to ask for help! Understand that we are all sinners and that we all have a responsibility in our conduct. I am not perfect and I am trying to change my ways. The point here is that if ever any of you are feeling like you are being mistreated or in a situation that is causing you to sin – leave. Young readers, ask an adult to help you. Find someone you can trust and tell them!!! I am thankful that as I seek God’s instructions that he leads me in such a way that he does not want me to condemn anyone rather know the truth and follow his commands to help yourself from committing sin. That is where you can find freedom that is also referred to in 2 Peter.

There is a full reading in the Holy Bible. Anything you need to know about living out this life as a Christian is in there. We can only be perfect in our maturity level. Christ calls all of us believers to excel, rise above mediocrity and to mature in every way to become like him. I encourage you to be patient in learning what you are curious about. We can’t expect others to be perfect but we can recognize when environments are not healthy for us. Pray for God’s will on earth as it is in heaven!

May you find helpful information here and if I have misconstrued any of God’s Word, I pray that He will be your teacher in setting you straight or me straight. When we seek to understand His commands, we really do find freedom. I pray that I don’t trip anyone up from being a Christian. I confess that my behavior does not reflect that in which I strive to be like. I have much more to learn. I also know that I can walk beside this person that I have strife with and I vow that I would support them if ever they asked me to. Time does heal all wounds. I have been through many excruciating acts of forgiveness and this one is different from the others. I actually am thankful for this lesson and strife because I know it is only purifying my heart. But I encourage those with my story to be overcome with the truth so that you may at least try to live your life out according to which we are to conduct ourselves.

God will take care of us if we allow him to. I love the discipline I receive from him. I really do experience the freedom when I do. I hope that you are able to go in peace to love and serve the Lord! ~ Susan Husa

Who Should Be My Teacher?

I thought these words were helpful!

Sudha W.

When I first completed my Reiki Master-Teacher training, I was extremely content at how much I have learned and how far along I had come in my practice. It was after 5 months that I felt an itch that I need to learn more. My teacher (at that time) had not pursued Reiki beyond the Usui system (the traditional and most popular one – also the prerequisite to the 1500+ Reiki types available today). In fact, I didn’t even know that there were other forms of Reiki – what I knew was that I’m not done. I need to learn more. It is then I heard about other forms Reiki.

Initially, I thought it was just money making schemes because what do you do with people who have learned the Usui system – they are all potential clients. The rest of the people who won’t try Reiki are not even…

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Fractured – Thinking about my niece and her fractured body.

1/28/2018

 

The reality of today overwhelms me. I pause to hear what you have to say.  When I fix my eyes on you; well – here’s how I’m dealing today….

Chorus:

My soul feels fractured

In the midst of this life

My heart knows better

In the truth of your Word.

Take me where I go away

When my soul longs lovingly for you!

I’m holding fast to you right now, affixed to your comfort and your love. My fractured soul returns to you, forevermore – you bring me joy! The joy and happiness you’ve planned for me are much greater than any man can see.

Chorus

So thank you Lord over all the earth – For you are divine and part of me! I’m feeling thankful for your clarity. I’m feeling perfectly in all your Glory! Forever – Amen